By G.P. Avants
“Endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.”
One way I use to connect with people was with playing games and activities. I think playing board games is a great way to understand people better. One childhood toy I do remember was called, “Click, Clack.” It was two plastic balls held together by a nylon string. The idea was to get the two balls to smack together in synchronization up and down which caused them to click and clack together. That seemed like a simple toy, but really required a fair amount of focus and concentration.
Growing up I was very shy. That was probably because I was awkward, gangly, had crooked teeth, and stumbled over my words as well as my oversized feet. At school I first learned about clicks. Everyone had people they clicked with. It wasn’t just the cool kids, but thank God nerds and geeks congregate as well. I had finally found my people.
But something happened as I began to become more conscience of people outside of my bubble. I met lonely people who looked like they needed a friend. I tried to include them, welcome them, into our group of friends. I just assumed everyone was welcome and no one was excluded. For whatever reason they didn’t want to be part of a click or sadly some in our group snubbed them. That is when I jokingly dubbed the word, “clack”. To me that meant people who see people as part of a bigger community. So, where a click might be deeper and fewer relationships, a clack could elicit broader relationships with less depth, but more inclusion.
As all things come full circle, my now teenage daughter has come to these conclusions herself. She loves to have those close friendships, but avoids being clickish. She does see that there are others who she wants to connect with and does make attempts to build a connection. So, I guess this piece is an ongoing idea that we all can find useful at any age.
Do you have to pick between the two when it comes to relationships? Is there a balance between the two? This might not be a different swing on this verse, but I think it applies.
Solomon talked in the book of Ecclesiastes about two people are better together and a three-fold cord is not easily broken. To me it says that the Lord, being that strong center cord , is the balance between every aspect of our lives. Since God is all about building healthy relationships, why wouldn’t He show us how we can do this with His constant help?
So we can maintain close friendships with depth and closeness.
And find ways to connect with all sorts of people in whatever situation we find ourselves in.
What is your take on this? Do you agree there can be balance?
Want more on this topic? https://psychcentral.com/lib/click-or-clique-positive-and-negative-teen-social